How to Hug a Vampire: Week 1 – “Suckproof Your Life”

We all have vampires in our lives. They’re not the ones with pale skin and bloodthirsty fangs – but they do suck the life out of us. They live in your city, across the street and maybe even under your own roof. So how do you love the people who drain you? How do you handle your dysfunctional relationships? How do you make it work when all you want to do is run? It’s time to learn how to hug a vampire.

Big Idea: Unhealthy people build barriers. Healthy people establish boundaries.

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1. Loving the people who suck life out of you starts with realizing how much you suck too.

“And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.

Matthew 7:3-5 (NLT)

2. Before you can really reach out to anybody else, you’ve got to define your own property lines.

Don’t cheat your neighbor by moving the ancient boundary markers.                Proverbs 23:10 (NLT)

Big Idea: Vampires live in houses with moats and walls. Healthy people live in houses with gates and fences.

 

Big Idea: Unhealthy people build barriers. Healthy people establish boundaries.

Unhealthy people create barriers based on past hurts and fears that create isolation.

For you are all children of God through faith in Christ Jesus. And all who have been united with Christ in baptism, so there’s is no longer Jew or Gentile, slave or free, male and female. For you are all one in Christ Jesus.

Galatians 3:26-28 (NLT)

Don’t forget that you Gentiles used to be outsiders. In those days you were living apart from Christ. You were excluded from citizenship among the people of Israel… But now you have been united with Christ Jesus. Once you were far away from God, but now you have been brought near to him through the blood of Christ. For Christ himself has brought peace to us. He united Jews and Gentiles into one people when, in his own body on the cross, he broke down the wall of hostility that separated us.

Ephesians 2:11-14 (NLT)

Big Idea: Vampires live in houses with moats and walls. Healthy people live in houses with gates and fences.

You can give unconditional love without giving unrestricted access.

Oh, the joys of those who do not follow the advice of the wicked, or stand around with sinners, or join in with mockers.

Psalms 1:1 (NLT)

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.           Proverbs 4:23 (NLT)

Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble.

Proverbs 13:20 (NLT)

Warn a divisive person once, and then warn him a second time. After that, have nothing to do with him.

Titus 3:10 (NIV)

3. We are responsible to others and for ourselves.

Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.

Galatians 6:1-2 (NLT)

Each one should test his own actions. Then he can take pride in himself, without comparing himself to somebody else, for each one should carry his own load.

Galatians 6:4-5 (NLT)

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